1-2-3 Magic Outline

    1. Say That’s 1 (show the number one sign with your fingers) & PAUSE 5-10 seconds
    2. Say That’s 2 (show the number two sign with your fingers) and PAUSE 5 10 secondsThis is a warning for consequence if behavior does not change
    3. Say That’s 3 (tell child to take a break, break starts when child is calm)Be consistent and follow through with the timeout/consequenceFor serious misbehavior use the Major/Minor
    4. consequence you have pre-arranged with your child/student
    5. When the child comes out of time out, DO NOT continue to talk about the time our or what lead to the time out. 
    6. Key concepts to 1-2-3 Magic success
    1. Be gentle
      Be consistent
      Be decisive and calm

    Major rule to 1-2-3 Success

    No talking and no emotionWhen child comes back from timeout there is to be NO lectures, NO apologizing, and NO discussions.  You (the parent/guardian/caregiver) MUST REMAIN QUIET!


    1-2-3 Magic: 3 Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting

    By Thomas W. Phelan, PhD


    Focusing on behavior that is expected and focusing on the positive